Leyla Shen wrote:
brokenhead wrote:I never stopped loving her, and yet I feel like I am falling in love all over again. Can this be possible? What do y'all think?
Of course it's not possible! How, if you never stopped loving her, can you fall in love all over again
It's probably very easy for a type of people called "we normal thinkers". They do it all the time!
Seriously though, for men loving seems more based on memory, something shared in the past which can even project into the long-term future, like children and other shared activities. It's valuation based on past familiarity, appreciation of what has been and how you regard the events and feelings so far
in love is more based on the near future, a matter of expectation
. Therefore related to the new and the experiment, a price
to win. Something which is not yet the case but might soon be, or something that is happening but might keep happening even more intense! Pheromones mostly encourage this but it can very easily be driven purely by ideals and dreams only, mixed with memories. It's a weird cocktail designed to put you on your toes and falling over at the same time.
So brokenhead, yes, it's possible. After such a time many aspects will be new and you have both changed enough (I presume) to provide new dimensions for a while.
Normally I wouldn't encourage people to chase after dreams of love but in your case it seems like a good choice. Not much to waste really but in your relationship you might discover some reflection of peace nevertheless.
In a way I'm being encouraging, understanding and dismissive all in once. It must be spring...