Ryan Rudolph wrote:Matt wrote:You might get the ego to have a hard fall, but it's just going to get right back up and be even stronger when it does. That's how that goes.
If I fall in a hole, surely Iâ€™m going to try my best to watch out for that same hole the next time around, and if I fall in the same hole a second time, this should give me even more determination to change. I donâ€™t simply accept that you are a flawed person and end of story Matt. If you have discontent over particular tendencies within yourself then this discontent can fuel fundamental changes in the quality of your thoughts and behavior.
The problem is that you donâ€™t simply acknowledge a tendency, you also justify it as well, and the justification prevents you from fully coming to grips with it, and moving into a direction where you actually change. You simply say, â€œoh thatâ€™s just how that goes, or it happens like this, and that is why it will continue to happenâ€ But this type of thinking keeps you in the same pattern of behavior.
If you simply said, â€œyes, Iâ€™m discontent with this particular tendency in meâ€ and then you sat with it for a long time, analyzed it, remembered all the times you did it, researched it, wrote about it, and put a significant amount of energy into change, then change is possible.
It might not always be possible, but many times it is, so I donâ€™t think we should just write ourselves off as ultimately incorruptible.
Sorry, I'm not explaining myself very well. I just meant that you need a long term plan. The ego is not just going to fall over like a statue all of a sudden and go away. It can adapt in very cunning ways and survive, so to speak.
True wisdom isn't bitter at all.
Its bitter to the ego. The less ego there is, the less bitterness there is, It hurts to acknowledge imperfections, but we all have them. The stronger one becomes, the less hurt one is over acknowledging imperfections, and the less imperfections they should have.
I'll agree with that, except I think the stronger one becomes, the more imperfections you should have, because you're becoming more aware and able to cope with more. You would have to be pretty far in the Bodhisattva stages before your imperfections actually start decreasing.