Katy wrote:And at any rate, abusing Eliza seems to have been the single best thing we could have done for her, if it finally pushed her into receiving medical attention for her issues.
This is bullshit. I went to get medical attention because after the stock market crash, I lost confidence that I'd be able to get an income through investments, and knew that if I'm to try to get a job, I'd have to fix the leaky tear duct problem that concurrently arose (it wasn't really crying because I did not perceive emotions with it, it was just streams of water that kept running down my face). There is no way I can get a job without having that problem fixed. If even thinking about having to work for someone else causes flashbacks of what they did to me at my last job, I could never get through an interview in one piece.
What's more Katy, it's amazing how you dodge all responsibility in your treatment of me. You'd either make a long string of subtle attacks across the boards, or attack and delete, and when I'd say something back, you'd cry the wounded victim (and you're still doing it) and people would believe you because they didn't see all the elements of what you'd done. At least you admit it here:
Katy wrote:As I commented at the time, my pleas with her to receive mental help were genuine (if intentionally button pushing).
Intentionally pushing the buttons of someone with PTSD is never,
ever helpful.
And you're projecting too much onto the medication. The interaction with Nordi put me into a nasty tailspin with some wretched flashbacks, and if nothing else, you can see that by the fact that I was not able to let go of the topic for days after he said he was done posting. All of the other things - even with Aaron as you mentioned - were gone within a day. Actually I'm still recovering from the one with Nordicvs, and that was when I stopped posting as much. Dealing with that while I was already in rough shape from flashbacks related to the sexual harassment on my last job, and even worse how management had what I found out was
a pattern of covering up for this guy when he had done this sort of thing to various employees over the years...
The world is full of people like Noridcvs, and people like you who like to push people's buttons and try to play like you're doing something good by doing that. At the moment, I am not dealing well with that piece of reality about how people are.
I really didn't want to respond to this thread anymore, but I had to straighten out your thinking that button pushing was a good idea. You claim to have compassion, Katy, and I have never asked for it until now. Now I am asking you to please let this drop. The meds made me feel better for the first week, but since then I've been spiraling down. I don't want to publish all the things I'm going through right now online, but I will tell you that one of the things is that I'm getting enough sleep again that the nightmares about my mother have returned - and there are a couple of bits of your personality that remind me of her - so please Katy, just let this drop.
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edit to add - and Nat, for the record, I had not taken the misogynistic approach (and if you think I did, please show me which posts I did that in). If anything, I am growing to recognize more truth in some of what they say about that. In a post stamped March 24, 2007 11:36 a.m. -
Elizabeth Isabelle wrote:Yanno, it's getting harder and harder to point out why it's wrong to use the QRS Woman definition.
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