The Buddha’s middle way is about knowing the nature of mind.
conceptual designator or meaning maker.
in the case of,
a husband and wife occur at the same instant.
they depend on each other for existence.
they depend on a conceptually designated agreement between each other and other conceptually designating minds called a culture that go along for the ride.
a husband and wife conjoined in marraige,
cannot exist outside conceptually designating minds.
there are rules to marraige conceptually designated as essential for marraige to remain unbroken.
marraige is conceptually invented and is understood to have conventional status only or exist by common agreement. (fantasia).
the ultimate reality of marraige is that it is empty of intrinsic meaning.
it is an opinion or a belief or a project of a consortium of meaning makers.
in the middle of a chain reaction.
what is distinguished is 2 truths.
conventional truth and ultimate truth.
the point is not to designate marraige as good or bad and get into an emotional fugue about it and dredge up afflictive emotions.
the point is to recognise all existents arise dependently, are of dependent origination and are the result of causes/conditions.
what can be noticed is,
a mind conceiving of marraige as distinct from a marraige that a mind conceives.
therefore a mind has a property,
Does a mind that conceives of marraige depend upon the property, conceptual designation, for its existence?
The case of the mind conceiving of marraige is itself an object designated by another conceptual mind.
This latter mind designates the property, meaning maker, to the former mind as 'a mind that makes meaning'.
It is the designating mind that demarcates its object from other things and identifies that object as having a property.
when phenomena are not closely examined, they seem to exist in their own nature, independent of conceptual constructs.