This is my understanding of the phenomena:sschaula wrote:Pretty much every girl that was married gave it up the fastest...I think I said this before. It was insane to me! This is what I mean when I say I learned a lot.
While a woman is single, she still has her "purity" as a bargaining chip. It makes her more valuable in the eyes of men, so she is cautious about giving it up. But once she is married, she no longer has that as an excuse not to enjoy sex with whomever she chooses - especially if her husband won't find out about it.
There may be a biological reason for this.
Women often marry men who are good providers, but they are sexually attracted to a completely different kind of man, whom they find more exciting, but who is not a good provider. Ideally, and subconsciously, she wants to become pregnant to the more exciting, risk-taking, more independent man, but have her husband pay for the rearing of the children.
The same thing happens with cuckoos, hence "cuckolding" - where the cuckoo leaves its eggs in the nest of an altogether different species of bird, who will do all the hard work of caring for and feeding the young.
But, biologically, the boring, good provider needs to leave enough of his own genetic material in enough of the offspring, otherwise in the future there won't be any providers. So there has to be a balance.
The only thing that can stop adults of both sexes having rampant sex at every opportunity is the possession of some sort of ideal. But we live in an age where ideals are going out of fashion.
When life is reduced to its bare bones, with all intellectual ideals stripped from it, there is just sex, food, and death.



