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by MKFaizi » Thu Apr 13, 2006 12:38 pm
I agree with Dave Hodges. I definitely am not offended by discussion of sex. I could not care less. I am not offended by flirtation. I think people should be free to flirt as much as they want to flirt.
The Danish cartoons were political and religious in nature and, therefore, offensive to some Muslims. I suspect that Dave Hodges is not offended by discussion of sex.
Naturally, there is a big butt coming.
Well, a big but. Here it comes.
BUT
Flirting can be distracting to serious discussion. How do I know? Been there, done that. I am not sure that flirting is something that can be banned from the writing here. I think it is something that has to be outgrown. That takes time. Some encouragement to do so is not out of order and does not have to be directed at particular people or a particular person.
I reckon part of the problem of a free-wheeling forum is that these things will occur. Since anything goes, anything goes. It can be hoped that posters will monitor themselves but it is true that people can only monitor conscionable things. If one is not conscious of one's aimlessness and frivolity, then, one will post that unconsciousness.
Freedom is a wonderful thing. But freedom, in the purest sense, is also responsibility.
Hardest thing in the world to learn. I have spent eight years learning it and I am fifty three years old.
It is unfortunate that there is not a Flirtation Board here but there is not and, really, I think such a forum would be detrimental.
Here is what was said to me in the past when I engaged in distracting flirtation or private conversations on list or forum: Go private.
There is that option.
Flirtation is an exchange exclusively between two people or, I reckon, there could be group flirt but I have not seen that. When that sexual dynamic occurs, it definitely distracts from the discussion.
Flirtation is an unconscious conversation that goes on between the lines. It starts as inuendo or implication. Little things but it can destroy a discussion -- because it becomes an exclusive exchange.
This is the Brothel so anything goes.
I think a free forum can monitor itself and, in the process, become more conscious.
In the Brothel, we cannot dump down. We cannot dump up either. The Brothel is the Brothel. We get dumped on from above. Why dump on ourselves?
Faizi