Diebert: One of the major problems a female top sporter faces is her stronger dependency on the approval of coach, family, audience or even the competition.
guest_of_logic: And you know this exactly how? From years of experience as a top female sports coach? From empirical research into female sports psychology? I mean, give me some basis for believing you.
Diebert: Although I present it also as my opinion formed on anecdotal evidence, reading about sports, social contacts and so on, it's not different from what is known about female psychology in various literature on the topic, describing women as being more relational, deriving self-esteem from relationships, being more approval-oriented and compliant. It's not hard to see how that could work through in their sports; they don't seize being woman suddenly!
Whether you're right about this issue or not, it doesn't affect my original point, which is that David's false claim (which turned out to actually be Kevin's) that elite female sportswomen give up readily in competition (the specific case Kevin cited is female tennis players failing to chase after balls) is born out of an entrenched bias against women, and that this is simply one example of how on this forum - context be damned - women are enthusiastically diminished with a sort of veiled contempt, sometimes not so veiled.
Diebert van Rhijn wrote:The ones not interested are not interested and can still lead pleasant lives and then die. Perhaps they earn more money or status, or believe they have more fun, or more purpose, than the ones who are interested. So where's exactly the implied inferiority? Why would anyone of the "inferior" bother with that to them uninteresting idea? Unless someone would be extremely insecure and hyper-sensitive for perceived injustices and sleights.
The implied inferiority is obvious: money, status, fun and worldly purpose are all "delusional" through QRStian eyes. Indeed, happiness itself through this paradigm is delusional. How can that which is delusional be anything
other than inferior to the supposedly delusion-free enlightenment of the successful QRStian? Often enough on this forum the common "deluded" man/woman, living a worldly life, is looked down upon. It doesn't take long for the forum observer to come to understand that joining the QRStians entitles one to a two-fold sense of eliteness: firstly, that of being masculine-minded and not feminine-minded like a weak, needy woman; secondly, that of being clear- and rational-thinking, or well on the way towards that state, and not deluded like the average animal-realms chump.
guest_of_logic: So here this forum is, set up to argue a strong case for its philosophy of rational enlightenment: exactly how subjective do you want to allow it to be?
Diebert: The power of reason or rationality does not need this forum to argue its case. It's already the case and any thinking individual knows it.
You seem to have missed my point, and in doing so to have contributed towards it. My point was that to frame the enlightenment paradigm of this forum as being only for those interested in the heights is to imply its
subjectivity (although there are implications of objectivity in the unqualified word "heights"), and yet in your response you imply that the case for that paradigm is
objectively self-evident. It must be this way for QRStianity, because without some kind of objective underpinning, QRStianity loses its personal value: it's but one personal path amongst many, no more or less valid than the others. QRStians
need for it to be the (objectively) ultimate path, so that they can justify the energy they invest in defending it.
guest_of_logic: To say that the highest of heights ("for those interested") is "by definition" attainable only through the use of masculinity is to commit an injustice.
Diebert: What I was saying was that masculinity is at the core that very power, will and drive to attainment, to climb peaks, to peak. It pans out differently in each human though. This has not much to do with "peak experiences", involving all kinds of pain and pleasure.
You're seeing only half of the equation. I've seen the other half of the equation raised on this forum multiple times, so I'm sure I'm not saying anything that you haven't heard before, but it's relevant in this discussion. Perhaps this half of the equation is a QRStian blind spot because of the QRStian aversion to warm fuzzies, emoticons, and in general, everything emotional. The other half of the equation
is the relational. It's based on the fact that we live in a world amongst other people; in which our actions have an effect on those others; in which, unless we go into hermitage, we
have no choice but to relate to others: and that as such it behooves us to try to have the best possible effect on those others. The other half of the equation then can be summed up as compassion: compassion towards self and compassion towards others.
I anticipate that you will try to reframe this compassion as a truly masculine trait, but if you do that then you will only provide further evidence for the point that both Carmel and I have made: that out of an entrenched male-chauvinistic bias, every positive traditionally feminine trait gets reframed by QRStianity as a truly masculine one.
skipair wrote:Sup Laird. I would define higher level masculinity as LOGIC, specifically about reality=self=inner beliefs/structuring. It's a mistake to attempt or pretend that this would be one's only value - there will always be more than that - but it is the FORUM's only value. It does feel good to know you're not logically retarded. As for raising other's consciousness, it only helps for those already strongly inclined (sexism is great). And even then, it's still a solo road.
Skip, good to see you back man - where've you been?
Knowing what I know about you, I think I can see where you're coming from: I think you're talking about the lonely path towards true clarity about what's
really going on both around and within you, and the possibility of helping others along the path only if they are already on that path and ripe for assistance. Of course logic is important on this path, but it's a very broad-based type of logic, incorporating not just the very focussed "masculine" forms of logic, but also leaps of intuition that aren't so naturally classified as "wholly masculine". In any case, I see this as a quintessentially
human journey, and not just one that men participate in. I'm not, though, going to bust your chops for framing it as masculine, because I know that your perspective is more gender-balanced than the typical QRStian's perspective: you value in your life the role of feelings and passion that the typical QRStian considers unconscious (and hence objectionable), and you cop enough crap from them over it for me to feel some compassion for you. ;-)