|read| wrote:Not that I'm an expert, but it seems entirely possible to me that 2 people can care about each other, and contribute to each other's emotional well-being, in much the same way they can contribute to each other's knowledge by communicating. Of course, this comparison hinges on the assumption you haven't dismissed emotion itself as worthless delusion, which seems to be in vogue with this particular "enlightenment" crowd.
Thanks, |read|. This sounds level-headed to me.
FWIW, I believe it is foolish to dismiss "emotion." Because few people who try to dismiss emotion even have a clue as to what it is. Emotion is part and parcel of what every person has to face during their time on earth. If you dismiss it, ignore it, belittle it, or otherwise maltreat it, it will respond in kind and make your life miserable. The best thing, I find, is to learn how to control it. And I do not think of love as an emotion.
Shahrazad wrote:Romantic love sucks. It will come to an end and you will pay a price for it.
You know, Shah, you are right. It did come to an end already, about 30 years ago. Because we did not know how to handle it. She got married and I never saw the point if I was not going to marry her, she was my best mate. Why be tethered to anyone? Because the relationship ended, but not the love. We still love each other and can finish each other's sentences and all that happy horseshit. So, Shah, the price has already been paid. I have not loved anyone else except for one person a dozen years ago who was the quintessential Woman of the QRS description. That was a total disaster.
So I have paid already. Now it is time to get something for my payment. She is leaving a marriage that did not work, and I have nothing to lose.
She was my best friend growing up, in the late teens/early twenties. Neither of us are wide-eyed innocents, and we are proceeding as carefully as we can. I don't see how I can lose.