The key to freethought is honesty. We're used to having a specific reality that everyone agrees on, but to have that we have to deny the reality of any experience that falls outside of that. We try to control our experience to align with different "authorities" and to avoid "rocking the boat." We forget that we're on our own boats, and we're each individually the captain! By making our own experience now the authority, we free ourselves from the "official" reality our parents and their parents taught us to experience.I wrote:The masculine seems to be the easier to self-sync. When its main focus is the self, it becomes directing instead of controlling. It doesn't need to align with any ideas or anything "outside," abstracted (such as culture or other people). It simply acts or doesn't act, in the best interest of self. Nothing is feared, nothing is worried about; concerns are dealt with immediately or not seen as concerns.
One of the first thing you'll notice when you're honest about your experience is that you have many choices available to you at any point in time. The choices may be very simple, unthinking choices, such as twirling in a swivel chair, or more "profound" choices that take time to decide. Normally, people might choose based on arbitrary information learned from the "authorities." To direct your experience yourself, you need to be honest as to which choices will be most fulfilling for you now.
The feeling of fulfillment is actually an emotion, a masculine emotion! Yes, there are "masculine" emotions. Joy and excitement are masculine emotions. Pride is also a masculine emotion, and it can be experienced without being judgemental. We can avoid the masculine emotions of anger, frustration, and even fright by making choices based on that feeling of personal fulfillment.
When you're honest about you're current experience, you can afford to be selfish in this way. What is fulfilling for you is in your best interest and in everyone's best interest. "Rough love" can be fulfilling and helpful when the emotion felt is positive (as opposed to "tough love"). It spotlights for yourself and others your sense of integrity and encourages personal responsibility. At the same time, it may be fulfilling to lend a helping hand, depending on the circumstances. The motivation for helping or not helping is personal and "selfish" when one is self-directing.
This sort of selfishness frees up the thought process. Time spent worrying about being "rational" by your culture's standards is used instead for more practical purposes, like enjoyment! Honesty allows a more accurate asssessment of reality that leads to efficiency and gracefulness in thought and action. For seekers of truth (which is everybody, really), freethought is invaluable.
