Dhodges wrote:
My relationship to porn is nothing like what you describe. I look at it sometimes. I don't have any feeling of addiction or needing greater stimulation.
I don't have a particular fetish. I have collected a wide variety of different types of porn. (I guess that is kind of typical of how I go about things generally - kind of exploratory.) Some of it is very interesting in a sociological / psychological way. With some of it, it is hard to understand why anyone would find it sexually exciting.
yes, it is interesting to wonder about why some things are considered sexually arousing for people....
I think some sexual content is an expression what mental trauma people have suffered as children. For instance: A boy that has had a very controlling mother or abusive mother will sometimes seek a dominating type of women to do all sorts of nasty things to him in the bedroom, Kelly Jones mentioned it before – that some sexual desire is an attempt to conquer deepest fears by acting out those fears in real life. So it is simply deriving excitement from something that is typically frightening.
Some women like it when their boyfriends tackle them to the floor right before sex because they are acting out their deepest fear of being raped, and they derive excitement from imagining themselves in that situation.
Some men derive excitement from being feminized by women, by having a woman dress them up, and reverse the gender roles, they derive excitement by the loss of control, by the powerlessness, by being overcome by a feminine force. By being assimilated by something inferior…
Many men derive excitement from the idea of teaming up with many guys to have sex with one promiscuous woman because there is a sense of masculine unity that is destroying something feminine. Some men derive a lot of pleasure and excitement from the thought of a unified feminine destruction.
Some men derive power and excitement from cheating on their girlfriends because he feels so controlled, attached, and trapped, and the thought of having no-strings attached sex with a promiscuous girl gives him an illusionary sense that he is in control, that he is more liberated than he is.
Some men derive excitement from the idea of destroying feminine purity, and losing oneself in the childhood innocence of the girl-mentality in the process, Quinn mentioned this already in more depth as related to child molesters, and he is totally correct in his analysis…
I also suspect things like foot worship, panty worship, shoe worship have to do with objectifying the feminine onto an object, and deriving excitement from stealing it, capturing it, and doing what is not supposed to be done. Many men who have this fetish derive excitement from stalking a really beautiful female, and breaking into her house when she isn’t home and stealing pairs of shoes or panties or what have you.
I think the typical male fantasy of anal sex with a woman is similar in this regard as well. He derives excitement both from the idea of doing something that shouldn’t be done, and the thought destroying, ruining, or de-purifying the feminine in the process.
Voyeurs and Exhibitionists are two sides of the same coin in my view. The Voyeur derives excitement from watching the private moments of others, the thought that he shouldn’t be doing it, and the thought that he is seeing something rare, or whatever. And the Exhibitionists enjoy having sex in public places because they derive excitement from the possibility of being watched by other people.
Some white woman enjoy the thought of having sex with black guys because they derive excitement from doing something bad, something that shouldn’t be done, almost unconsciously they know that genetically they are performing a big no no, and they derive excitement from it.
Both sexes can derive excitement from being forced to do something that is outright demeaning, foul, painful, humiliating, frightening or what have you. Many fetishes depend on the duality between the controller and the controlled, the slave and the master, the dominator and the submissive.