Sue, very well put.
This---
Sue Hindmarsh wrote:
This fellowship of man is something women have no knowledge of. Only men know it because of their shared goal. That is why even the most jaded man: one who is trapped in a marriage, a job and a mortgage, will still retain a degree of respect for those men who go all out and make a bid for perfection.
---however, just doesn't ring true for me.
Most men I know, who are near my age (in their 30s), are experiencing the full crisis of their masculinity (or feeling of 'maleness') and feeling utter emptiness in the sense of meaning or purpose, which, as they've been taught and as has been reinforced by society, can come from no other source except through a woman, marriage, the house and car and flower garden and kids; so they've resigned themselves to everything except that, and---from what I've seen---have very little respect for those males who aren't also trying to attain that.
In fact, they lash out at males who aren't chasing tits and ass (call them "weird," "losers," "fags," whatever), and shame them because they---perhaps only subconsciously---acknowledge the strength it takes to resist, the strength they themselves lack, and men despise being reminded of their own weaknesses. Far easier to go with the flow and conform, be like the commercials instruct them to be, all for some stab at 'normality' or some misguided search for fulfillment or 'happiness' (surrendering of independence, smilingly walking into their own cages).
The only 'fellowship of man' I've witnessed by the family types, or wanna-be family types, is conditional to how other males are like them in these mediocre lifestyles (their slavery clique).
It's the same with their occupations---a man who's drifting about, from city to countryside, perhaps as a painter or sketcher or writer (or doing nothing of social or cultural significance at all), doing his own thing and not seeking new cars or the latest this-or-that on the market...he's utterly loathed by working types (or in the very least deemed 'uncool'), who carry their decision to remain a labouring drone or corporate whore as a badge of honour
("I work for a living!"). It's the same for how they view non-pussy-chasing or non-marrying types. It's as though they can't stand to see someone who's free of all that.
Doggy wrote:
I don't know about you, but I nor anyone else I've ever known has compared a woman's lips on her face to the ones "below", and I highly doubt that's why they put it on or why the fad started in the first place. And I deny any subconsciously psychosomatic connections.
It's well known that in some cultures women had painted their lips as a signal of their willingness to perform fellatio. That's how lipstick came into use---that's generally how make-up came into use: females advertising their sexual maturity.
It's also no secret where kissing comes from, but I bet you never considered
that---long ago babies were fed by their mothers (with mashed up food, like birds do with their chicks) mouth-to-mouth---the last time you kissed someone on the mouth. Deny any connections you want, they nonetheless exist. Watch a male baboon chasing after a big glowing-red ass of a female baboon and deny it all you want, too, but it's still a fact.
Perhaps do some reading instead of remaining stubbornly ignorant.
