Dan Rowden wrote:I'll say it again for you: disrespect does not automatically inhere in actions or ideas. It must be intended and felt.
Nonsense. Intending and feeling is part of what disrespect is, but some behaviour and attitudes are disrespectful simply by virtue of them not conveying an adequate appreciation of the real worth of another person.
Dan Rowden wrote:If I say, "I mean no disrespect but I think you're an idiot." I am not being disrespectful.
It would depend on the context but I'd agree that in general, that would not be a particularly disrespectful thing to do. I would say, though, that you disrespect that person, in the sense of not having a high opinion of his/her worth. I'll add that it might be a
justified disrespect. I do recognise that disrespect can be justifiable.
Dan wrote:I need to know what you actually mean by "respect" before I can possibly continue the conversation.
I mean pretty much what Nat quoted from the dictionary. Basically valuing and attaching worth to a person as well as expressing that attitude in one's behaviour. Respect is both an attitude and an aspect of behaviour.
Dan wrote:And I'm not sure you're taking into account that respect (and/or disrespect) is a complicated matter.
Rest assured, I do have some awareness of subtlety.
Dan wrote:One may not respect a person for who they are, yet respect their rights and freedoms as a person.
Indeed. And one might utterly lack respect for a person (respect as an attitude) yet treat him/her courteously (respect as an aspect of behaviour).
Dan wrote:In my opinion what you need to do is show, explicitly, how my views are disrespectful. Good luck with that.
It's not particularly difficult, as Nat has already shown. You attach very little worth to women. That's a lack of respect, and as Nat has pointed out, lack of respect is equivalent to disrespect. I'll clarify this by saying that as I wrote above, I do believe that sometimes disrespect is justified, as in the case where a low worth is ascribed to a person and that person really
is of low worth. Obviously we disagree as to whether in this case your disrespect is
justified, but it's pretty undeniable that it exists.
Dan wrote:All you've done so far is argue that if a person feels aggrieved or harmed by an action or idea then disrespect exists. That's utter baloney to me.
Oh, so it's not necessary to consider the feelings of others when you formulate your actions, huh? It's fine to go around raping and torturing and that's not disrespectful because people shouldn't have feelings anyway? Come on Dan, if you respect people (consider them to be worthwhile) then you do your best (within reason and your moral code) to avoid hurting them. Deliberate hurt is disrespectful.
Dan wrote:Are you saying my views can be disrespectful even where I feel and intend none?
Yes.
Dan wrote:If so, I'm kind of fucked, don't you think?
Bend over, sailor.
Dan wrote:We may as well all just accuse each other of being disrespectful in our views and move on.
Well you can accuse me of being disrespectful to women all that you like but it won't have a hope of holding up. As opposed to you, I actually value the intrinsic worth of women.