I've been trying to comprehend both "matriarchy" and "patriarchy"---both theoretically and in practice---for around a year now, and I'd written something a little while ago on some (admittedly full of vim; and bold) thoughts I'd had on these two subjects. I'm still uncertain if I have this quite right, but it seems close somehow.
You guys seem pretty sharp, so I'll post it here and hopefully some of you can give me some feedback and add your own thoughts.
(Thanks in advance.)
[**My concept of "patriarchy," a masculine system (reflecting masculine characteristics, just as a matriarchy reflects feminine characteristics), I reason to be no larger than a tribal "system." (The "wolf pack" notion is strictly analogous.) If the masculine is more spiritual than the feminine---taking into consideration, of course, that no human is purely masculine or purely feminine---and is essentially based upon "less-is-better" thinking, it would be reflected in the size of population, the greater of which dictates how materialistic (matriarchal) it becomes; the more people, the more food the people need, and so on, of course.If 'Matriarchy' exists, society would be entirely feminine---indirect, subtle, deceptive, materialistic, over-populated, and "control" or "female power" would not be very observable...it would, however, pervade every aspect of society, from the bedroom to the bathroom and living room to the school, media, workplace, entertainment industries, as well as politically. It would be complex with excessive bureaucratic rules, many intricate laws for behaviour (male behaviour), and male suffering would be viewed as something honourable or comical. Matriarchy would have unspoken heirarchies, sweeping ones like "class" and large girl-cliques beginning in school (high school) and expanding into female culture and society. And it would contain an aristocracy of women ruled by rich women and apparently rich men, who are in fact ultimately ruled by their wives---the most influential women, not necessarily with any title or official power. Also, it would be a feminine-worshipping society---female sexuality would be absolutely everywhere. A "cult of female sexuality?"
There's a pure *matriarchy at work. A very liberal, material, greedy, sex-obsessed, overpopulated global commune.
The thing most people can't decide on is "omg! is this matriarchal or patriarchal ???!!!1" but what they do not seem to understand is that neither exist, in our conception: civilization itself is that very matriarchy.
And what we view as "patriarchy" appears to be man's futile attempt of countering female control---a loud "I want my ball back, Mommy! I know I'm not allowed to hunt anymore, but I wanna play sports!" And she says 'No, not until you invade that other place and take their stuff, cut down those trees and make chairs for us.' (The first human story of the first civilization, the first city, the first matriarchy, and the first king---Gilgamesh---has within it the pattern repeating since Sumer.)
What is **real "patiarchy?" A wolf pack---a small, efficient heirarchy---and nothing much bigger than that. Only within matriarchy would this explode (over-complicated, over-organized, overpopulated) into a monstrous heirarchy (like the military today in most nations). A true patriarchy would cease to exist inside civilization (because it is the opposite), or it would be expressed through sports, games (masculine-themed simulations---masculine virtual reality), things that almost satisfy that male need to be out hunting, fishing, being in bands and teams, gangs, squads, packs, small groups.
Men with masculine thinking might be unable to conceptualize a patriarchy, because such a thing simply makes no sense in the world---even so, an average man knows there is no such thing as patriarchy, even if he can't put it into words. Men never say to each other, "Hey, Bob, what a great day it is today in our man's world," because we know it's not true; most men don't know any males in positions of power, and most men have little power in their lives (a true masculine thinker desires no power), and those who are in power (corrupted and feminized by it) are typically supporting a wife and kids, not themselves.
I see no evidence of a patriarchy---no "class" of men are ruling women, and men are not "heads" of their households, especially if they're slaving away for others. I see only patriarchal elements, but these are as indicative of "patriarchy" and male behaviour as dogs chasing a tennis ball is indicative of wolf behaviour. Both civilized men and dogs are domesticated within a matriarchy for similar purposes---directly or indirectly serving materialism: more.
Nomadicty seems, to me, to be as well a crucial indicating factor: the more pregnant females in a tribe, the greater the tendency towards "staying put," which uses up resources quickly and, if permenant structures are built, creates the drive towards expansionism and war. (Sumer, for example, created an army, in addition to walls around Uruk, for the protection of not only the populace but also the wealth accumulated, and this army was transformed into an invading force to acquire more---of nearly everything. Agriculture created more food to feed the swelling populations, but it was largely timber, of course, and other resources that were in short supply.)
*My concept of "matriarchy" is based on home-rule, which is traditionally central to female power (and feminine-thinking: more-is-best, hoarding, organizing), women's historical base of operations---a city is an expanded version of that home, an empire or republic is an expanded version of that city, and this so-called "global village" of humans (civilization) is an expanded version of the empire or republic.]
Cheers.