Honestly, it sounds more like you are being condescending and disrespectful of his professional skill. To ask "Why the hell..." is a condescending attitude. I don't know, to me; "Why did you choose to take this route?" and "Why the hell did you go this way?" seem to carry different emotional connotations. Maybe your friend isn't upset about your question, but your attitude. On the one hand, you are respectful of his expertise and ask the question for your own enlightenment, on the other hand you are condescending, and ask the question out of frustration and a sense of superiority. My roommate is a female, and I always tell her, I'm not upset about your questions, your routines or your criticisms. I only get upset when you are upset. But she doesn't see the correlation. She is perpetually upset when things don't go her way, her face turns red, her brows and cheeks lower, her feet get heavier and she stops looking people in the face. That is how I know she is upset, and then I ask; What's wrong? and she says "Nothing", and I say "Clearly you are upset" and she snaps back "I'm not upset", and I say "You are lieing" and then she blows up pouring out her frustration onto me. I enjoy cooking dinner, but admittedly I'm not very good at it, and she is a pretty good cook. I like to make Fetuccini Alfredo with Chicken, its something I used to cook for myself a lot. But as soon as I begin the process of preparing a meal, she wanders in to criticize me, she'll say "You don't want to start the sauce yet, because the chicken will take 15-20 minutes to cook and you haven't even boiled the water for pasta yet." I say "Oh ok, I'll turn it off then, please let me know when you think is an appropriate time to start the sauce." then I leave it to her to oversee the process, but she gets mad that I'm not able to do it all myself. When in-fact, I am, I just don't care to make a big deal out of it. In the end, we had to wait an additional 10-15 minutes for the alfredo sauce....Kunga wrote:Dan Rowden wrote:And men get angry when you are doing a critical analysis of their behavior.
Not in my experience. I find men surprisingly magnanimous about such things, so long as the analysis isn't too far off base in their perception. There's a sort of critical point where they perceive the analysis as unjust (in its actual content) and that may anger them. Your statement about there being "sick puppies" here a case in point.Dan Rowden wrote:men get angry with what they perceive as errant or unjust criticism; women get angry at criticism, per se.
Ok...here's a good one : Why do men get angry when women ask them if they know how to get from point A to point B ?
(When driving in the car)
The guy i live with drives me crazy because he'll go 50 miles out of the way to avoid traffic & stop signs. He could of gotten there in 5 minutes going straight through town. If i questioned him as to why the hell are you going this way for...he would get very angry that i didn't trust his judgement.
So i kept my mouth shut during the whole drive...cause i didn't want to start an argument with him in the car....and then when we got to our destination safely...i asked him why the hell did you go that way when we would of been here in 5 minutes going the other way ? He explained he wanted to advoid traffic (it's faster on the hyway) & all the stopsigns ....(note: he drives for a living, and thinks of himself as a professional driver, so I would be insulting his intelligence by questioning him...)
In a study performed in London, England, researchers found that Taxi drivers' brains were denser in the region of the pareital lobes, a region that is involved in spatial-temporal coordination and planning. A similar effect is observed in mice made to run in mazes, compared to mice who are just placed in a box. This indicates that people who drive/navigate for a living, are superior with respect to navigation. Maybe your friend's route was faster for some reason you are unable to conceive.
No...not all women are feminine ! I'm not THAT feminine. i think many of you guys still think of woman as a mysterious thing....you don't really know us because of all your preconcieved images of what a woman is in your mind.[/quote]Dan Rowden wrote:Ok, I won't say that women are feminine. That can't be true, apparently, even as a generalization.
I dunno, I grew up after '81, post-feminism and I was indoctrinated into the feminist ethos. At school we were constantly told the same soundbyte wisdom that pervaded the media. My current view of men and women is actually outside of my "preconceived" notions.